To achieve one's definition of personal success, there are many ways, in which people suggest achieving this goal. Get the best education, get the best job, the best spouse, the best house and car and of course the best kids. And when it doesn't turn out quite like that, we are dumbfounded and traumatized as to why we keep getting second best. Most people do not realize that most of their setbacks in achieving their goals are based on an unhealthy personal belief system. Often, stemming back to confidence, trust and self-esteem issues. It may also be related to trauma or past, unfortunate circumstances. Accepting grace as a personal gift in life, does not always come easy, to a world that places more value on our ability to be loved by others and not by our desire to love ourselves first. Loving ourselves this way is sacred and not selfish. Our goal is to find our way back to ourselves. Try practicing some of these tips at your own pace.
1, Buy yourself fresh flowers or a candle every week, Don't wait for someone to bring you something that you love. Go see that movie alone.
2. Pray, meditate and or express gratitude every am before your feet hit the ground. We are most vulnerable to negative self talk in the early morning hours as we wake.
3. Make your bed in the morning. It makes you feel like your day has order. If the day does not go as well, you know that at least you will be crawling into a comfy, neat bed at the end of it.
4. Spend time organizing your self, your goals, your habits and clean out the clutter in all areas, for optimum living.
5. Forgive yourself. You are not that person anymore. You have evolved from your mistakes and you refuse to be a prisoner to them for life.
6, Spend time in silence and listen to your heart
7. Teach yourself self discipline .You deserve to live your best life at all costs.
8. Say goodbye to the victim. Love on the survivor.
9. Allow yourself space and time to heal, Care for your wounds. Stop nurturing your pain.
10. Peace does not mean quiet. Say everything that has to be said, Choose the words, the time and the place wisely.